So, yeah. I met this guy named Dan Savage. And I’m going to give you a signed copy of his book.

When I was nineteen, I stumbled across this weekly advice column called Savage Love, written by a man named Dan Savage. I was immediately hooked. I’ve never missed a week. (I’m thirty-five now. You do the math.) At it’s core, Savage Love is a sex advice column, but it’s so much more than that. Over the years, I’ve learned so much about relationships and people and society and politics and … life, really. No holds barred. He talks about everything in a very honest, no BS way. When I was a teenager, it was refreshing. (And considering I was raised in a very Catholic household, it was very much needed information.)

It’s still refreshing when I read it as a married mother with three kids.

Dan Savage has also written several books (I’ve bought and read — and loved — three of them so far). He and his husband, Terry, are also the founders of the It Gets Better Project:

What is the It Gets Better Project?

In September 2010, syndicated columnist and author Dan Savage created a YouTube video with his partner Terry Miller to inspire hope for young people facing harassment. In response to a number of students taking their own lives after being bullied in school, they wanted to create a personal way for supporters everywhere to tell LGBT youth that, yes, it does indeed get better.

The It Gets Better Projectβ„’ has become a worldwide movement, inspiring more than 50,000 user-created videos viewed more than 50 million times. To date, the project has received submissions from celebrities, organizations, activists, politicians and media personalities, including President Barack Obama, Secretary of State Hillary Clinton, Rep. Nancy Pelosi, Adam Lambert, Anne Hathaway, Colin Farrell, Matthew Morrison of “Glee”, Joe Jonas, Joel Madden, Ke$ha, Sarah Silverman, Tim Gunn, Ellen DeGeneres, Suze Orman, the staffs of The Gap, Google, Facebook, Pixar, the Broadway community, and many more. For us, every video changes a life. It doesn’t matter who makes it.

If you haven’t guessed, I’m a huge fan of Dan Savage. He’s been a tremendous inspiration to me as a writer first and foremost, but also as a spouse, and as a parent.

When I learned that he was going to be doing a book signing in Washington, D.C., I knew I had to go. I told my husband that I really wanted to go, but what I really meant was that I NEEDED TO GO WITH EVERY FIBER OF MY BEING AND NO ONE BETTER GET IN MY WAY THIS MEANS YOU. This was not an opportunity I was willing to miss. I planned what I was going to wear. I planned what I was going to say. I had contingency conversations. Like if I ran into him in the elevator. Or if I had an opportunity to buy him a drink. Or if I tripped and fell on my face in front of him.

So when I got there, it was this stunning cocktail party on the roof of the W Hotel in Washington DC. Everyone was gorgeous. I bought two copies of the book and stood in line with my librarian friend (remaining nameless for her benefit) and tried not to throw up.

I think I was more nervous at his book signing than I was at my own. Seriously. But I was ready. I knew what I wanted to say. How he was an inspiration to me as a writer. How I’d read his book already and what points really moved me. How I had so much admiration for what he was doing for kids all over the world with the It Gets Better Project. I had so many things ready to say.

I ended up staring at him (and possibly drooling) and choked out, “Uh uh uh I like your column.”

Yeah. But I got a picture!


You can’t tell, but I think I’m drooling on his arm.

BUT THEN. Later, Dan was mingling, and the crowd had thinned, and my other friend Jim (who is one of the bravest men alive) asked me if I wanted to talk to Dan. He didn’t even wait for an answer. He walked me up to Dan and started telling him that I was a writer. Then Dan turned to me and asked what I write about. I started describing my series, and he cut me off and said, “Oh, I know it! My neighbor’s daughter is reading your book. She was talking about it the other night.”*

And then I fainted.

No, not really. But I might as well have, because I don’t really remember what else we talked about. I did get to say some of the things I’d planned. I offered to send his neighbor signed copies of my books.

And that was it. An amazing night.

But guess what? One of those copies of his book, American Savage: Insights, Slights, and Fights on Faith, Sex, Love, and Politics? I got one signed for you guys. Unfortunately, I can only give it to one person. So who wants it? Open internationally! Because of the content, you must be over 18 to win. (Or have your parent email me to say it’s okay.)

What are you waiting for? Here’s the rafflecopter!

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* – I am fully aware he might have been saying this just to be nice. Don’t mess with my illusions, though, ‘kay? πŸ™‚

32 thoughts on “So, yeah. I met this guy named Dan Savage. And I’m going to give you a signed copy of his book.

  1. Wow what a great story you have about meeting one of your favorite authors! I loved that his neighbor’s daughter was reading your books, because they are awesome and I love them too! reading Spirit right now and loving it (omg so much angst I just want to hug Hunter and tell him “it does get better” at least I hope)

  2. LOL!! I laughed so hard when I got to the part about you saying “Uh uh uh I like your column”, after all the mindbusting you went through!

  3. LOVE Dan Savage!!! He’s awesome, and Savage U also rocks:))

    I’m a huge fan of The Elementals series (I have to say the Merricks and Hunter – love Hunter, he’s so so interesting and a wonderful opposite to Gabriel and Chris, and to be honest I think that with time he’ll be a lot like Michael in how he takes care of the people he loves – are such amazing characters!! Thank you for writing this series! I’m hooked:) so it’s so cool that his neighbor’s reading your books:))

    Lovely photos:)

    Thank you!! πŸ™‚

  4. Hahaha! I love your post. I would have done the same thing, rehearsed every word and then barely been able to sputter a sentence. Love the It Gets Better Project!

  5. That’s pretty close to what I would have blurted in fangirl mode, except the words would likely have been in the wrong order, leading to a politely befuddled smile. (this is experience speaking) And how did you NOT faint in real life???

  6. a wonderful recap! I’m so glad that you got to meet him in person. I haven’t read much of his writing, but I really admire and commend the work that he and his partner have done in founding the It Gets Better Project.

  7. Ummm,Ummm,arrr……are you actually reading MY comment? I am in awe!Would love this copy from Dan Savage as a keeper for my bookshelf.(Can’t TWEET, technically still in the dark ages)

  8. I’ve only been to 1 book signing and I tried not to fan girl Maggie Stiefvater too much. It was hard. Are you planning any signings in Southwestern Ontario so I can fan girl for you?

  9. I love reading your books, and am even more excited to say that I will be moving close to Maryland soon for college! I might get to be all fan girly around you some day! Can’t believe I have the opportunity to win a book by Dan Savage!

  10. Uh, yeah … I definitely would have fainted if I’d been in your place when he said his neighbor’s daughter was reading your book. Eeek! There you were fangirling and he knew who you were! So cool!

  11. hahahahahaha! omg Brigid you make me laugh >.< sounds great! Glad you got to meet him πŸ™‚ How exciting- sounds like a dream come true! πŸ™‚

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  13. This book sounds fantastic. I love the whole concept of “It Gets Better” and have shown the videos to my kids as well.

  14. Love this story, because it happens to me all the time! I had every word planned out when I went to Cassandra Clare’s book signing for Clockwork Princess, re-worded it again and again to make it short and sweet as I worked my way through the line, and then fell apart when I reached the desk and started gushing like a loon. I would probably end up doing the same thing if I ever managed to get to one of your signings!

  15. Your SO lucky I wish I could meet my favorite author its like a dream come true, but im so happy for you but the bright side(besides meeting him) is that you kept your calm on the outside while on the inside you were screaming:)

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